Honestly, learning to play this spiritual game of money is so much more difficult than I thought it would be.
When I set out on this journey to heal my relationship with money about six months ago, I thought that all I had to do was learn how to manage my money. To learn the mechanics of it, creating a budget, learning to save, and managing the numbers.
And yes, I have learned so much about managing money.
I have learned that there are basically four components to mastering the money game:
how much we make
how much we save
how much we invest
choosing to live well below our means
I have realized that financial freedom and independence are not so much about how much money we make as about what we do with it.
One person can earn millions, but if they spend it all, they are still living basically from paycheck to paycheck (which I have learned that many highly paid professionals do).
I have learned to save and invest my money in a very conscious and active way, and I have learned to take a good look at what I used to spend my money on, and have made some rather dramatic changes to cut down on our spending to have more money to save and invest.
So that part has been relatively easy, and I have truly loved (and still do) learning to actively and consciously play this game.
I repeatedly listen to books such as Ramit Sethi’s “I Will teach You To Be rich” and Tony Robbins's “Money, Master the Game,” and countless others, which teach the mechanics of managing money.
And as a result, my net worth is growing every single week, which I love, as I have never paid any attention to it before in my life.
How Wealthy People Think
But my money-healing journey is taking me even deeper than the mechanics of making, saving, and investing my money.
I am not only building a net worth that, at some point, will be large enough to financially provide for my family and me, but I am also transforming how money flows into my life.
Pushed and pulled by my intention to live a simple, peaceful, and quiet life - unbound by time and place, I am becoming aware of so many limited stories and beliefs about money and myself that I need to release and let go of.
There are in particular two books that I am leaning heavily on to help me on this journey.
The first one is called “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” by T. Harv Ecker and the other one is called “How Rich People Think” by Steve Siebold.
Without exaggerating, I have probably listened to these two books about 100 times combined, and I am far from done.
These two books do not deal so much with the mechanics of managing money, but more with the mindset of wealthy people, who, I have learned, think about money and themselves very differently from those of us who are not wealthy.
As consciousness always precedes form, to become (and stay) wealthy, we need to learn to think and act in ways that allow wealth to flow into our lives.
I am not going to go into all the details of what these books teach, but if learning to heal your relationship with money at a deep level feels compelling to you, I invite you to give both these books a try.
Money is a Game, and Anyone Can Learn to Play it
Bottom line here, I am learning that money is a game and just like with any game - any one of us can learn how to play it.
This game of money has rules that we need to adhere to, but once we learn the rules and learn to play by them, we become more and more masterful at playing the game. And as the third principle of transformation teaches, when we begin to change, everything begins to change.
When we begin to think and act differently, the results in our lives will begin to shift and change.
Yes, it takes willingness to challenge our old beliefs. Like, I am challenging my linear belief that I need to trade my time for money.
It requires that we make the conscious choice to go for it. To start betting on ourselves rather than sitting around hoping or wishing for our lives to just magically change.
And yes, it requires that we step out of our comfort zones and begin to move through life more boldly.
Yes, it requires that we start taking 100% responsibility for our own lives and stop blaming external conditions and circumstances, or other people, for the way things are, for our level of financial freedom or abundance.
It requires that we start trusting that we are worthy of and deserve to live a life of financial freedom and independence. I am discovering that while I do feel that I am worthy of it, I didn’t think it was possible for me to live that life.
Sure, others can do it, but I have discovered that I genuinely believed that it was my lot in life to toil and stay in the rat race for all of eternity.
This story that it was impossible, or actually the exact wording for me was “this will not ever change”, was my biggest obstacle.
We have a Divine Mandate to Live the Most Beautiful Life We Can Ever Live
That story held me captive, shackled, and prevented me from going anywhere but in circles.
Even after I learned the mechanics of money, I still held on to the victim story that my life would never change when it came to money.
Yes, I did start paying attention to growing my net worth, but building net worth without leverage is a long-term game.
It doesn’t happen overnight, but we are talking decades of investing and letting the money compound.
It wasn’t until I consciously became aware of that disempowering story, created by years of working hard and seemingly not getting anywhere, that I was able to release and let it go and replace it with a new empowering story.
That it is possible. Others have done it before, so I can do it.
In all honesty, I have not completely released it yet. I still become aware of that draining thought every once in a while, but it is fading more and more, and I am paying less and less attention to it.
We all have a Divine Mandate to live the most beautiful life that we can ever live, whatever that means to us.
These are not just random, meaningless words. This is a spiritual principle, but as this principle can be difficult to intellectually understand, let’s break it down.
So we have this Benevolent Loving Presence, or God, or Universe, or Spirit, or Divine Matrix, or whatever we feel comfortable calling it.
Whatever we call it, it is all there is. Fully and evenly present in every space, place, being, moment, and object. It is in all things and all things are in it.
It is the One, it is the Whole.
Being all there is, it means that we are one with it. We are not separate from it, we are not a part of it. We are it.
Just like the wave is one with the ocean. The wave is not a part of the ocean, nor is it separate from the ocean.
Every wave is the ocean expressing itself in a unique, perfect, whole, and complete way.
In exactly the same way, we, every single one of us, are a unique, perfect, whole, and complete expression or emanation of Spirit.
Now, the purpose of all of life, the only purpose of life, is for God to express more of itself. To reveal more of itself. More of its love, joy, peace, harmony, wholeness, abundance, beauty, and creativity.
That is the only reason life exists.
And so, we have chosen to come here to this planet, at this time, to do just that. Reveal more and more and more of these divine qualities.
To forever allow for greater and grander expressions of who and what we are (which ultimately is who and what Spirit is) to come into manifestation.
Money is Good for Only Two Things
One of my earliest teachers Mr. Bob Proctor used to always say that money is good for only two things;
to make our lives comfortable. And we want to be comfortable. We want to have enough money so that we can live our lives doing what we want to do, whenever we want to do it, without needing to ask ourselves if we can afford it.
to allow us to extend our services. We all have gift, talents, and abilities that we are here to share with the world. And the more money we have the more we can focus on sharing these with the world in our own unique way.
So if we perhaps are buying into stories such as “Money is the root of all evil” or (as in my case) “Money is not spiritual”, we need to challenge these.
Money is not the root of all evil. It is the unconsciousness of people that is the root of all evil.
Money will only amplify what is already within. If we are greedy, stingy, and want to cause harm, money will allow us to be more of that.
If we are loving, giving, and generous, money will allow us to amplify those qualities.
And so it is not the money in and of itself that is causing harm, destruction, and separation, but it is the human consciousness that is the cause of all the bad things we see in the world.
As for money not being spiritual, it pretty much comes back to the same explanation: if we are spiritual, seeking to do good, to serve, and help heal the world, the more money we have, the more we can serve and help heal.
There is no virtue in being poor. Being wealthy is not a sin.
These are merely excuses that we can hide behind so that we don’t have to take full responsibility for our financial situation.
Brutal Honesty Is Required
As you are perhaps beginning to understand, we need to be brutally honest with ourselves about why our lives are the way they are.
There is never, ever any outside force, power, circumstance, or condition that is preventing us from changing our lives, including our financial situation.
It’s like Pogo said - “We have seen the enemy and he is us”.
The only thing that is ever to blame, if we need to blame anything, is the unconsciousness, the unawareness within us.
Yes, we may have stories and beliefs we feel are valid and justified, but they are nothing more than stories and beliefs we are buying into.
On my own journey, one of the hardest things for me to admit was that I knew pretty much nothing about managing money.
I mean, I have my own business, I have a family with two beautiful children. I am an adult, yet I have not learned how to handle money in a way that was sustainable or even responsible.
I always thought that if I only made more money, that would solve everything. But the more money I made, the more we spent, and I still was not “getting ahead”.
The first stage of healing is always awareness (accompanied by brutal honesty). We need to become aware of what is not working in our lives, and then be honest enough to see that we are the cause of that.
Then, and only then, can we begin to take responsibility and change our lives.
That is where it begins. That is where it has to begin. Always and forever, or there will be no healing of any kind.
Invitation And Empowering Questions
So the invitation for us, is to take a good and honest look at our life as it relates to money, and to ask ourselves: Am I perfectly happy with my financial life, or is there room/need for improvement?
If the answer is that there is room for improvement and expansion, then we are obviously invited to take 100% responsibility for it and start to make conscious choices that will inevitably move us in a new direction.
If you are ready to stop letting the story of “this will never change” run your life, make a conscious decision right now to start learning the rules of the game.
Pick one of these two books to listen to or read this week:
Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker (for the mindset shift)
I Will Teach You To Be Rich by Ramit Sethi (for the practical mechanics)
Open Spotify, Audible, Apple Books (or its Android equivalent), or head over to your local library today. Bet on yourself.
The key is to get moving, to take that first step toward healing.
Transformation is rarely about making massive, dramatic changes, but often it is about making small changes that, over time, lead to different (and often massive) results.
A powerful question to augment and support the healing is;
“How Can I…?”
Asking that question on a regular basis forces the mind to start looking for solutions, ways out, and as whatever we focus on expands, new ways, opportunities, and possibilities will begin to reveal themselves.
They have to because it is the law.
🎧 Complementary Audio Practice
The complimentary audio for this post is actually an episode from a series I started recording on the topic of Mastering the Spiritual Game of Money.
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